Anyway, I am not reeeeaally making this post about ~omagad gurl you need to stop thinking you're fat you're all beautiful~ and start busting out some One Direction or Bruno Mars songs in here. Because that stuff gets really old and no matter how many times I preach it, millions of girls will feel insecure about their weight anyway, not gonna lie, including myself.
I'm writing this because I am sick of people being SO concerned about my weight now that I'm studying overseas. "Oooh you're gonna become so fat! All that American food lolol!!!!!" "Kau camne sekarang? Dah gemuk ke??" "Aku tengok kau macam makin tembam je haha"
STOP.
I think it's because of that women's studies class that I took last semester that's bringing out my inner feminist but seriously. I am 99% sure people who are studying abroad can relate to the same problem. Since when one's weight DEFINE who you are? You know there are hundreds of other questions you can ask like how's studying going? Or how's the weather like? Any difference in teaching style between Malaysia and the US? BUT NO. Apparently gaining (or losing) weight has become so important. And that's sad. What's sadder is even successful women like J.K. Rowling experienced the same thing.
"I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn’t seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? ‘You’ve lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!’
‘Well,’ I said, slightly nonplussed, ‘the last time you saw me I’d just had a baby.’
What I felt like saying was, ‘I’ve produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren’t either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?’ But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate! "
We've become such a shallow society. When we haven't seen someone for some period of time, the first thing we notice is their appearance, especially for females. Ooh those pimples weren't there last time we met. I know you love chocolate but you miiiiiiiight want to cut down a little because you look a little chubbier.
I feel like when I go back to Malaysia, I'll be judged SO MUCH on how I look. I mean not just me, literally any student (or anyone for that mattter) who went abroad for some time. Weight and appearance. And that's not a nice feeling to have. I feel like I have to maintain or lose weight just so I won't hear those snide remarks from anybody (I can deal with my friends, but those kepoh makciks, ugh). It's sort of like I have to 'impress' everyone even when I don't have any reason to nomsain? Okay a lot of feelings floating around here. But seriously, even if I didn't gain nor lose a pound, people WILL choose either side. Nobody ever really say oh you look the same since I last saw you. Especially to girls. People will always find something different about you and point it out.
I am just so sick with the society's obsession of being thin!!!! Imagine me shouting that on the highest rooftop you can find near to you. Yes that would be me right now. I hate how whenever I post a picture on Facebook, I cringe if it's a very unflattering picture of me. I'm succumbing to the society! Oh no! It used to get pretty bad that I won't upload a picture just because I think I looked fat in it. But I try not to let that bother me too much now. But I do know a lot of girls who still ask their friends to delete a particular unflattering picture(s) of them. Because I've been asked to do so. Multiple times.
I'll admit I don't have the healthiest eating pattern. I eat fries, pizza, mac and cheese (YUMMEH) and snacks like chips and gummy bears. Even though I don't eat meat (I wish I could, and trust me there have been moments when I thought ugh screw it I want to eat this piece of chicken!!! But nope I persevered yay me) I don't eat a lot of veggies either. I just eat whatever I want, whenever I feel like it. I know that's not the best thing to do and I am sure I have gained weight but I mean, it's not the end of the world! If you give me a chocolate cake right now and I deny it, the possible reasons would be 1) I already ate something and I'm full 2) That person is a clone THAT IS NOT ME.
And to my friends who are studying overseas, please, don't stress yourself about your weight just so you won't come back home feeling fat. I mean whenever I go out and eat with my friends they order the healthiest stuff and then there's me. I mean yes take good care of yourself but being so picky, avoiding GOOD, DELICIOUS food just because you might gain weight? Why you gotta be so cruel to yourself, man. Go on and eat those ice-cream. It'll do you good. (Speaking of ice-cream I know the weather outside is cold but then the MORE I feel like eating cold desserts!)
In conclusion I just want to say please, for the love of God, don't be so shallow and caught up with this whole weight issue. If I come back to Malaysia and I look like I gained 15 kgs, your world won't come crashing down, don't worry I promise. And yes I'll still take that chocolate cake.
I just realize this post is making me look like I'm oh-so-important to everyone and as if my weight will be the talk of the town for weeks when it's really not. I'm sorry if it came across that way! I'm just trying to make a point here.
Also, isn't it ironic how the society preach about all sizes are beautiful but then when celebrities (like Kelly Osbourne, Jennifer Hudson) lose weight, they become famous, get asked about their tips and all that, are complimented so much especially on the red carpet, and then when celebrities gain weight (Kelly Clarkson, Jessica Simpson), they are bashed so harshly and made fun of? Interesting.
I don't want to start with the whole ~it's what inside that matters~ or ~beauty is only skin deep~ crap because those things are balderdash but I do want to say something cliche, as in beauty is really all about confidence. Now I am NOT, repeat, NOT, the best person to talk about confidence because I feel self-conscious 99.9% of the time but I mean, if you have confidence, you're already half-way there. Look at Rebel Wilson! She's not stick-thin but she's confident about herself. She embraces who she is and that's why she appeals to a lot of audience. I'll watch any movie she's in, honestly. So if anything, work on your confidence rather than being all worked up about your weight because I truly believe confidence is everything, not your weight or how you look.
Now excuse me while I go and eat my Ben & Jerry's Red Velvet Cake Ice Cream. (I know right? When I saw it at Walmart I was like WHOA how could I not know this thing exist!? God bless America and their fattening food).
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